Monday, 14 May 2012
Wednesday, 9 May 2012
Suspension of sorts
At the weekend I did a 3 hour indoor climbing tutorial. I've done indoor climbing before, but not this year, and as my climbing had concentrated on just the climbing and not really the belaying, I decided a refresher course was needed. During the time on the walls we tried various different grades of climbs and gradients. I was quite pleased with what I could manage. What I wasn't looking forward to was the 'throwing yourself off the wall' for your buddy to get practice at safe belaying for when this happens for real. I've always had a problem with the letting go and trusting the person below to take get me back down safely. I've been known to totally freeze if I think they're not paying attention or don't have the tension just right on the ropes. Anyway the time came for me to do it, just as my climbing buddy had managed 2 not so good attempts to belay safely for another climber!...This did not fill me with confidence. However, I'm never going to progress if I don't trust my climbing buddy to look after me. So there I was half way up the wall when I knew it must be about time to throw myself off, I just had to close my eyes and hope when I let go and flew out into mid-air I wasn't going to end up a pancake or crumpled heap at the feet of my novice climbing buddy while she stood waving her arms in the air frantically doing hysterics! And sure enough, all went well, I dangled about in mid air for a few seconds taking in the full view of the Ratho indoor climbing centre (it really is a spectacular building!) before I was gently lowered back down to terra firma and an ecstatic climbing buddy. When it was my turn to get her down safely I had no fears at all, I have far more confidence when I'm in control (no surprise there then!) and managed to pull it off perfectly. And on we continued enjoying throwing ourselves off the wall for the last half hour of our course, enjoying the new found freedom that letting go brings.
This brings me neatly onto thinking about someone first coming to see a Professional Mistress. Like my experience you have to put your trust in someone you hardly know. allow them to guide you safely through any dangers and pitfalls there may be, but while doing so you can get a total freedom of letting go and the excitement and ecstasy that can bring. Lots of situations in life mean we have to put faith in someone else, or put our faith in a process. Sometimes we are let down, but the process in itself allows us to grow and move on as individuals. Otherwise we limit ourself and our experiences to those we feel comfortable with, and never know the potential of what life really has to offer if you're brave!
Talking of brave...the climbing instructor was a brave man indeed, he tried to hit on me and give me his telephone number at the end....pity I don't think he is submissive!
Friday, 4 May 2012
Kilimanjaro Charity update....non kink blog!
I've decided to give a quick update on my Kilimanjaro Charity Challenge as quite a few people have been emailing me asking how things are coming on. Rather than reply individually I've promised to update here.
Last month my physical challenge went full speed ahead. I gave myself the mini challenge of attending as many different exercise classes as possible as well as doing my normal running. So by the month's end I had panted, puffed, endured and sweated through a plethora of activities. As you can guess they reminded me of muscles I'd long forgotten about but also gave me some insight into a few different forms of exercise that I've surprised myself by actually enjoying. The ones I indulged in were zumba, aqua zumba, aerobics, aqua aerobics, step, body pump, body combat, yoga, body balance (a combination of pilates, tai chi and yoga) Legs, bums and tums, spin fit, tap, and body attack. The ones I've been most drawn to surprisingly are yoga and body balance....maybe all my aggression comes out in sessions and this gives me balance!
As far as the fund raising goes, the balance at the moment is sitting around £2,200. Thank you so much to everyone who has given so generously so far, and a special thanks to the lovely gent who won the charity auction for a 2 hour session. I had a ball putting you through your paces....all in the name of charity of course! I'm hoping to raise a total of £3750 which looks very achievable. Given I've not started fund raising fully with friends and family I'm sure there will be no problem managing this amount. Of course, as promised I will auction off another session around August time for another chance to bid/win.
Right, a fully fledged, full fat, full on kink blog will follow soon.....I promise!
In the meantime if you're getting perversion withdrawal symptoms, here's a pic to keep you going!
Last month my physical challenge went full speed ahead. I gave myself the mini challenge of attending as many different exercise classes as possible as well as doing my normal running. So by the month's end I had panted, puffed, endured and sweated through a plethora of activities. As you can guess they reminded me of muscles I'd long forgotten about but also gave me some insight into a few different forms of exercise that I've surprised myself by actually enjoying. The ones I indulged in were zumba, aqua zumba, aerobics, aqua aerobics, step, body pump, body combat, yoga, body balance (a combination of pilates, tai chi and yoga) Legs, bums and tums, spin fit, tap, and body attack. The ones I've been most drawn to surprisingly are yoga and body balance....maybe all my aggression comes out in sessions and this gives me balance!
As far as the fund raising goes, the balance at the moment is sitting around £2,200. Thank you so much to everyone who has given so generously so far, and a special thanks to the lovely gent who won the charity auction for a 2 hour session. I had a ball putting you through your paces....all in the name of charity of course! I'm hoping to raise a total of £3750 which looks very achievable. Given I've not started fund raising fully with friends and family I'm sure there will be no problem managing this amount. Of course, as promised I will auction off another session around August time for another chance to bid/win.
Right, a fully fledged, full fat, full on kink blog will follow soon.....I promise!
In the meantime if you're getting perversion withdrawal symptoms, here's a pic to keep you going!
Friday, 20 April 2012
Gags part 2
Thank you for all the comments on my gags, part 1 blog. So here is part 2. If you want to reread part one, here it is!
I was sessioning with one of my fabulous rubberist guys at the weekend. He happens to be a gag slut too and reminded me that I still had this blog to write. We spoke a bit about tape gags and he mentioned microfoam tape. I've yet to use it to gag, but have used it for it's primary purpose. However, given how it looks in the picture below, I think I'll have to give it a try soon. I love how you can see all the contours of the lips in it. I enjoy having someone taped, or when they have latex over their face, just running my tongue along the contours of their lips, it's electric!...ok, enough of this or I'll be the one drooling.
I was reminded by the good Lady Grey of some of the simpler methods of gagging that I'd forgotten to mention. Stockings, lingerie, the above mentioned tape over mouth etc. One way of doing this so that there is no risk of the item going too far into the mouth is to place something inside a stocking leg, half way down, like a pair of my panties, then the stocking can be tied around the head, very simple and works very well. Due to the nature of the fabric, it absorbs all the saliva that is produced so no real drool with this one, but a good one nonetheless, especially if the person is informed that they are being gagged with your panties....it just helps the headspace of getting them to shut up...using my femininity...oh and brute force! The stocking gag also works well with a sponge placed half way down the stocking, this also absorbs the saliva. Of course, as has been pointed out, it's not the best for noise reduction, but still works very well. In fact I've yet to come across any gag that will render the submissive totally silent.
I've got a few gag head harnesses. These look quite extreme, and can feel it if the harness is pulled very tight. These usually have the added benefit of having D rings so that you can secure the head and make bondage feel more extreme as can be seen in the picture above. Someone visited me recently who had his own custom made gag harness in pink leather, how cute. It had an O ring at the mouth with some added metal protrusions to add to the drooling. Quite effective it was too. I managed to rub it in all over his chest area, quite humiliating for him, and hugely amusing for me. In fact I got to tease him quite a lot because he was drooling at both ends for me!
Funnel gags look amazing, but to be fair, I'm going to be stupidly obvious when I point out that they are rather position dependent. They work better if the person is almost semi recumbent. If they are lying flat, then any fluids can stream in and cause choking. If they are more upright then with the longer tube version, the tube kinks and causes problems, and with the no tube version....well lets just say that would be foolish to attempt to pee into a pot that's vertical!
The gag above is a form of dental gag with tooth guards. It's fairly easy to fit in the mouth and leads to quite a bit of drooling. What I like about this gag is the D ring at the front which means the person can be led about or shackled to something else, for instance a piece of bondage furniture, the cell door, or their own bondage restraints such as wrist cuffs or bondage mitts.
The last picture here is a gag I love using. Not so much to get the saliva going, more for breath control with an added rebreather bag. It has nose clips to ensure a good seal especially when worn with a latex hood.This means the smell of latex becomes quite intoxicating!
I was sessioning with one of my fabulous rubberist guys at the weekend. He happens to be a gag slut too and reminded me that I still had this blog to write. We spoke a bit about tape gags and he mentioned microfoam tape. I've yet to use it to gag, but have used it for it's primary purpose. However, given how it looks in the picture below, I think I'll have to give it a try soon. I love how you can see all the contours of the lips in it. I enjoy having someone taped, or when they have latex over their face, just running my tongue along the contours of their lips, it's electric!...ok, enough of this or I'll be the one drooling.
I was reminded by the good Lady Grey of some of the simpler methods of gagging that I'd forgotten to mention. Stockings, lingerie, the above mentioned tape over mouth etc. One way of doing this so that there is no risk of the item going too far into the mouth is to place something inside a stocking leg, half way down, like a pair of my panties, then the stocking can be tied around the head, very simple and works very well. Due to the nature of the fabric, it absorbs all the saliva that is produced so no real drool with this one, but a good one nonetheless, especially if the person is informed that they are being gagged with your panties....it just helps the headspace of getting them to shut up...using my femininity...oh and brute force! The stocking gag also works well with a sponge placed half way down the stocking, this also absorbs the saliva. Of course, as has been pointed out, it's not the best for noise reduction, but still works very well. In fact I've yet to come across any gag that will render the submissive totally silent.
I've got a few gag head harnesses. These look quite extreme, and can feel it if the harness is pulled very tight. These usually have the added benefit of having D rings so that you can secure the head and make bondage feel more extreme as can be seen in the picture above. Someone visited me recently who had his own custom made gag harness in pink leather, how cute. It had an O ring at the mouth with some added metal protrusions to add to the drooling. Quite effective it was too. I managed to rub it in all over his chest area, quite humiliating for him, and hugely amusing for me. In fact I got to tease him quite a lot because he was drooling at both ends for me!
Funnel gags look amazing, but to be fair, I'm going to be stupidly obvious when I point out that they are rather position dependent. They work better if the person is almost semi recumbent. If they are lying flat, then any fluids can stream in and cause choking. If they are more upright then with the longer tube version, the tube kinks and causes problems, and with the no tube version....well lets just say that would be foolish to attempt to pee into a pot that's vertical!
The gag above is a form of dental gag with tooth guards. It's fairly easy to fit in the mouth and leads to quite a bit of drooling. What I like about this gag is the D ring at the front which means the person can be led about or shackled to something else, for instance a piece of bondage furniture, the cell door, or their own bondage restraints such as wrist cuffs or bondage mitts.
The last picture here is a gag I love using. Not so much to get the saliva going, more for breath control with an added rebreather bag. It has nose clips to ensure a good seal especially when worn with a latex hood.This means the smell of latex becomes quite intoxicating!
Tuesday, 17 April 2012
Anal Antics.
Those that follow twitter will have read small snippets on my recent purchases for anal play. Going back to the beginning, then I'll fill you in (ohh er matron!) on how anal play began for me.
When I first stated exploring BDSM all those years ago, anal play was probably close to being on my hard limits list. More because it didn't do much for me and not that I was turned off by it, just not turned on. Then I met someone who was lets just say anally fixated. Though his desire for anal was clear, also was the fact that I didn't want to go near it. However, as that relationship developed into something quite meaningful, I started to wonder what it would be like to anally fuck my boy. This curiosity went on for quite a while until I decided I wanted to try it to see how I felt about it mentally as well as physically. Anyway, the short route to the answer is I enjoyed it...a lot! But then I wasn't sure if I had enjoyed it so much because I was doing something so intimate with someone I felt deeply about. As it turned out, I did enjoy it with others in a professional capacity, just not as much due to the intimacy being less so. I still enjoyed the power rush, the anticipation, the whole feeling of invasion and taking from someone despite it appearing like an act of giving. I might give them a good arse rodgering, but I take so much more from them too.
When I started Pro-domming I bought myself a Vac-u-loc strap on harness and quite a few dildos, adding to the collection over the years. Despite having spent a small fortune on this, I've always been a bit disappointed that they only seem to make and supply larger dildos. Many an ass has been unable to take even the smallest of my cocks. So this year after quite a few years of promising myself, I decided to purchase a new dildo harness. One that would be able to take a huge range of sizes from the very smallest of dildos to the largest ass ripping cocks. So I've gone back to my favourite leather supplier Top to bottom leathers and asked them to make me the harness above. I'm quite excited about it, given I've waited so long to buy another good quality harness. I remember the Vac-u-loc one cost me £100 way back 7 years ago now, and although I see they are more reasonably priced now, I guess I've had my money's worth out of it. It will still be making an appearance though, so I won't be sending it to harness heaven just yet.
So I'm now all stocked up with various different sizes, shapes and materials of dildos. I've had quite a bit of fun choosing, getting all hot and bothered looking at the various types. I've also been quite frustrated at times, as I like everything to be aesthetically pleasing to me, I've been looking at either black or red dildos. Of course when I see something I like, do they do it in my colour choice?....do they buggery......or not as the case may be!
When I first stated exploring BDSM all those years ago, anal play was probably close to being on my hard limits list. More because it didn't do much for me and not that I was turned off by it, just not turned on. Then I met someone who was lets just say anally fixated. Though his desire for anal was clear, also was the fact that I didn't want to go near it. However, as that relationship developed into something quite meaningful, I started to wonder what it would be like to anally fuck my boy. This curiosity went on for quite a while until I decided I wanted to try it to see how I felt about it mentally as well as physically. Anyway, the short route to the answer is I enjoyed it...a lot! But then I wasn't sure if I had enjoyed it so much because I was doing something so intimate with someone I felt deeply about. As it turned out, I did enjoy it with others in a professional capacity, just not as much due to the intimacy being less so. I still enjoyed the power rush, the anticipation, the whole feeling of invasion and taking from someone despite it appearing like an act of giving. I might give them a good arse rodgering, but I take so much more from them too.
When I started Pro-domming I bought myself a Vac-u-loc strap on harness and quite a few dildos, adding to the collection over the years. Despite having spent a small fortune on this, I've always been a bit disappointed that they only seem to make and supply larger dildos. Many an ass has been unable to take even the smallest of my cocks. So this year after quite a few years of promising myself, I decided to purchase a new dildo harness. One that would be able to take a huge range of sizes from the very smallest of dildos to the largest ass ripping cocks. So I've gone back to my favourite leather supplier Top to bottom leathers and asked them to make me the harness above. I'm quite excited about it, given I've waited so long to buy another good quality harness. I remember the Vac-u-loc one cost me £100 way back 7 years ago now, and although I see they are more reasonably priced now, I guess I've had my money's worth out of it. It will still be making an appearance though, so I won't be sending it to harness heaven just yet.
So I'm now all stocked up with various different sizes, shapes and materials of dildos. I've had quite a bit of fun choosing, getting all hot and bothered looking at the various types. I've also been quite frustrated at times, as I like everything to be aesthetically pleasing to me, I've been looking at either black or red dildos. Of course when I see something I like, do they do it in my colour choice?....do they buggery......or not as the case may be!
Tuesday, 20 March 2012
Session Auction
As some of you know, previously I've auctioned off a 2 hour session to raise funds for my charity challenge. So it's that time again to go under the hammer as it were. The deal is that you can place a bid by email to me and tell me the maximum you'd like pay for a 2 hour session. Then the highest bidder gets to do just that....simples!
A few rules from me though to take into consideration before bidding.
1. The bids must not be for sessions already booked.
2. I must have sessioned with you at least once before, ensuring our interests match.
3. The bids should be received by me by midnight on the 5th April.
4. The session can be a general session, a medical session or a mixture of both.
5. You will have 2 months from the end of session to arrange a mutually suitable date for the session.
As before, all proceeds from the auction will go fully to Marie Curie Cancer Care.
There will be another opportunity to bid for an auction session again in August.
Happy bidding!
Saturday, 17 March 2012
Weekend sessions, have you something better to do?
I recently had someone ask me at short notice for an appointment today in my clinic. He doesn't often get the chance to session at the weekend and was hoping I could fit him in. I limit my weekend sessions normally, and certainly only do one session which then leaves me time to still enjoy the weekend. So anyway, getting back to today, I had made some arrangements with family members to meet up and do some official family business dealing with the bereavement I had last year. Given this chap was probably wanting to give his excuse as being away at footie, his window of opportunity was around the footie game. This clashed with my arrangements, but since he's been coming to me on and off for nearly 5 years and he doesn't get a chance often then I decided, if I could, I'd rearrange my appointment for earlier in the day to give me time to get to my premises. I asked the 2 other members of my family if they would mind meeting early. Luckily there was enough notice for them to do this even though one was travelling quite a distance.
So arrangements made I got up at silly o'clock to fit in my training. My running is coming on and I'm almost back at the time/distance I was before my op. Then comes the text to confirm, or not as the case may be. It read 'I hope you don't mind but it's a lovely day today and I think I'd rather be outdoors doing outdoors stuff so can we cancel and reschedule for another time!!!! What on earth are you meant to reply to that? Ok, I won't go into the replies I was tempted to make. Suffice to say I'm not best pleased. When I make a commitment to see someone, I make a commitment. I honour that commitment come hail, rain or shine, even if it is the only day of the year that Edinburgh is basked in sunshine. If I've made a commitment to session, then I intend to honour it and not decide what to do depending on the degree of cloud cover!
Some people may think this is acceptable. I don't. I have a life, just like every other person on the planet. I have things I'm committed to, things I like to do, things that need done and god forbid but we Mistresses even need to pay bills. God knows what image some people have of us. Do we sit around all day filing our nails, at our premises, waiting for the phone to ring, happy to accept any sort of behaviour and attitude because we need the money? I think not! I don't session the way they do at commercial premises, I don't take walk off the street appointments, I take time to select play partners who will gel with my style and ethos. Obviously sometimes I get it wrong. Or maybe because I'm easy going in some respects this gives people the impression I'm happy to be trod on. Think again. I have a low tolerance level for shit, and now I'm making it public I have an absolute zero tolerance policy on this sort of shit. If you want to mess people about, treat them like a convenience store and disrespect their time and arrangements then do it somewhere else. This will not be tolerated by me, end of.
So after this weekend I will no longer be taking bookings for weekend appointments apart from those 3 people who session regularly with me at the weekend and never let me down. These people know who they are, respect my time and appreciate me seeing them at weekends. To those others who might have wanted a weekend appointment and are genuinely respectful, then I'm sorry to have to be like this but it always only takes one to ruin it for the rest. However, I'm sure you will agree, when all is said and done, family come first!
And on that note.....end of rant!
Normal service shall be resumed shortly!
So arrangements made I got up at silly o'clock to fit in my training. My running is coming on and I'm almost back at the time/distance I was before my op. Then comes the text to confirm, or not as the case may be. It read 'I hope you don't mind but it's a lovely day today and I think I'd rather be outdoors doing outdoors stuff so can we cancel and reschedule for another time!!!! What on earth are you meant to reply to that? Ok, I won't go into the replies I was tempted to make. Suffice to say I'm not best pleased. When I make a commitment to see someone, I make a commitment. I honour that commitment come hail, rain or shine, even if it is the only day of the year that Edinburgh is basked in sunshine. If I've made a commitment to session, then I intend to honour it and not decide what to do depending on the degree of cloud cover!
Some people may think this is acceptable. I don't. I have a life, just like every other person on the planet. I have things I'm committed to, things I like to do, things that need done and god forbid but we Mistresses even need to pay bills. God knows what image some people have of us. Do we sit around all day filing our nails, at our premises, waiting for the phone to ring, happy to accept any sort of behaviour and attitude because we need the money? I think not! I don't session the way they do at commercial premises, I don't take walk off the street appointments, I take time to select play partners who will gel with my style and ethos. Obviously sometimes I get it wrong. Or maybe because I'm easy going in some respects this gives people the impression I'm happy to be trod on. Think again. I have a low tolerance level for shit, and now I'm making it public I have an absolute zero tolerance policy on this sort of shit. If you want to mess people about, treat them like a convenience store and disrespect their time and arrangements then do it somewhere else. This will not be tolerated by me, end of.
So after this weekend I will no longer be taking bookings for weekend appointments apart from those 3 people who session regularly with me at the weekend and never let me down. These people know who they are, respect my time and appreciate me seeing them at weekends. To those others who might have wanted a weekend appointment and are genuinely respectful, then I'm sorry to have to be like this but it always only takes one to ruin it for the rest. However, I'm sure you will agree, when all is said and done, family come first!
And on that note.....end of rant!
Normal service shall be resumed shortly!
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